I was very sad to hear that long-time radio host for ABC in Sydney, James Valemtine had passed as a result of cancer. After entertaining the people of New South Wales for 25 years in his afternoon show with humour, worldwide sage knowledge and above all empathy for others, his passing has left a void for those who got so much pleasure – and often learning – from James’ discussions.
And in this void, James also left a legacy – our memories of some of the little quirky things he’d cover in his show – that seemed so simply yet brought so much joy and humour to us all. As fellow journalist Sarah Macdonald recounted in today’s article on ABC, “ … he would sweat to help us laugh at the small things that loom so large in life: How to stack a dishwasher; the etiquette of bringing cheap wine to a dinner party and then drinking the good plonk; and the frustrations of the partner who insists on sleeping on the display cushions.”
In the mix of James’ monologues (short), witty remarks, and empathic conversations with listeners sharing their problem, there was often a guest James would invite to discuss an issue or perhaps problem that he thought many listeners could learn from.
I’m honoured to say, I happened to be one of James’ guests some years ago when James was looking at one of the things that loom so large in most people’s everyday lives – our boss. His opening remarks, “What impact does our boss have on us? And, what makes for a good boss?”
James, had a real knack of asking the key questions – in a very practical and easy manner – that quickly got to the heart of the issue. My interview was not long after I’d written my first book, “What To Do When You Become The Boss: How new managers become successful managers” and in the 15 minutes of our interview, James uncovered the key ingredients that had taken me 320 pages of text!
What a fabulous experience.
On hearing today’s news, I listened again to our discussion and as well as the pleasure (and sadness) of hearing James’ endearing tones, it shows the skill of questioning and listening where a great interviewer can elicit the key points with such clarity and humility.
I’d encourage you to have a listen and hear James’ ability to cover such a seemingly complex topic, in such an easy, clear and explicit way. And of course, if you happen to be a boss, the key ingredients in the recipe for becoming a good one are forever pertinent.