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I wrote a couple of weeks ago about the passing of well known and highly respected Australian radio host, James Valentine. Since then, I’ve had the opportunity to listen again to my interview with James whose opening question of me was, “Bob, what makes a good boss?”.

That question brought to mind the time that I ran a leadership development program for the Australian Institute of Management and in particular, one participant, Henk.

Now Henk had emigrated to Australia from the Netherlands some years before, found a job as a factory-hand working on the production line, and by the time he came to our leadership training, he’d risen to be the GM for the factory. 

We were talking about good bosses, and Henk recounted the story of his great boss. Apparently, each Christmas he’d give Henk a small bonus, perhaps also a bottle of wine as a “Thank You” for Henk’s work during the year. As Henk proceeded to tell his story, I could hear and see that he was getting a bit emotional.  Henk said, “You know Bob, the bonus and wine were nice, but it was the letter that went with the gift that was so good.  In the letter, my boss thanked me for the work I’d done, the time away from family on business and the challenges I’d overcome, and so on”.

By this stage Henk had tears in his eyes, as he continued, 

By Philip Pryor & Bob Selden – Family Business Central

A recent article in RNZ “What to know about working for your family” mentioned that as “margins tighten, some small and medium-sized businesses are turning to family members to help keep their operations running.  However, legal risks can arise when a family "helper" is later found to have effectively been an employee.”

From our experience in Family Business Central of working with family businesses over the last two decades in New Zealand and Australia, we’ve found this to be true.  However, this is only half the story.  In addition to the legal implications and requirements of the employer/employee relationship mentioned, there are significant family issues that can arise.

I was very sad to hear that long-time radio host for ABC in Sydney, James Valemtine had passed as a result of cancer.  After entertaining the people of New South Wales for 25 years in his afternoon show with humour, worldwide sage knowledge and above all empathy for others, his passing has left a void for those who got so much pleasure – and often learning – from James’ discussions. 

And in this void, James also left a legacy – our memories of some of the little quirky things he’d cover in his show – that seemed so simply yet brought so much joy and humour to us all.  As fellow journalist Sarah Macdonald recounted in today’s article on ABC, “ …  he would sweat to help us laugh at the small things that loom so large in life: How to stack a dishwasher; the etiquette of bringing cheap wine to a dinner party and then drinking the good plonk; and the frustrations of the partner who insists on sleeping on the display cushions.”

In the mix of James’ monologues (short), witty remarks, and empathic conversations with listeners sharing their problem, there was often a guest James would invite to discuss an issue or perhaps problem that he thought many listeners could learn from.

I’m honoured to say, I happened to be one of James’ guests some years ago when James was looking at one of the things that loom so large in most people’s everyday lives – our boss. His opening remarks, “What impact does our boss have on us?  And, what makes for a good boss?”

In our work with family businesses, we recently had a situation where the founder of a large family business was apparently so frustrated with one of his sons (who is a senior manager in the company) that during a phone conversation said, “Son, if that’s the way you want to do it, then you’re sacked!”.

And this was 10 days before Christmas.

Both father and son are very forthright and determined people, so whilst a little shocked, I was not surprised with this happening.  Obviously, it’s not something the son said or did on this one occasion - there’s probably a lot of family history that’s led to this.

Now, what did surprise me was that three days later, the father reinstated his son.

And having worked with the family, we are pretty sure that the son’s three siblings would have been supporting their brother in standing up to Dad. Ah, family dynamics!

Can you imagine the atmosphere when the family are sitting around the table at Christmas dinner? The father/son topic is bound to come up, if not directly, then certainly by inference at some point during the meal.

Whilst this may seem like an extreme case of family disfunction, many families have both past and immediate history that can cause the celebratory meal to become a platform for raising past hurts and felt injustices.  In extreme cases, it could even lead to the “last supper” for the full family.

How to avoid such happenings and have a truly warming family Christmas get together?

When was the last time you heard a political or business leader on hearing a position or newly suggested policy by an “opposition” leader, say, “That sounds like a good idea. I fully support that.  And I believe we can add even more value”? Nada? Never? Or so long ago you’ve forgotten?  Me too!

In a newly published book by the late opionist, Steve Stannard, you’ll see some wonderful ways that we (and our leaders) can have reasoned, informed, accepting, and at appropriate times, humorous, ways of having collaborative rather than combative conversations about all the things that affect our daily lives.

Cycling doyen, sports scientist and lately barista, Steve succumbed to cancer on Saturday, 30^th August 2025, aged just 58.

The book, “You Can’t Make an Omelette Without Breaking a Few Eggs” containing 50 of Steve’s published opinion pieces, was launched at his memorial on Friday 21^st in Palmerston North, New Zealand.  It’s a tribute to Steve and his contribution to his community, and indeed the wider society. As I commented when asked about the book recently, “Where we often see today’s leadership antagonistic and polarising, you’ll find Steve’s articles reflect his often ‘way out’, but always practical, advice on how to better live our lives in a collaborative rather than confrontational manner”.

By Guest author, Kenny Bhosale

Personally, as an introvert, I was never the natural morale booster or energy bringer, and I came to terms with that. My role was to create space for others to step in and be that person.

Ever feel like being a leader also requires you to be a counsellor, mediator, referee, morale booster, energy bringer, emotional punching bag, therapist, a parent, peacemaker, mind reader, and team glue - all before it’s lunch time!? That’s the invisible labour of leadership. The stuff we rarely name or plan for, but that can quietly makes or breaks us. So let’s talk what successful leaders do differently.

By guest author, Michelle Nguyen.

If you’ve seen someone checking your ticket at the Stadium in Palmerston North NZ, serving you at a Japanese restaurant in the city, or leading a waste team at an event in The Square, chances are, that was me. I work multiple part-time jobs to keep learning and growing.

I arrived in New Zealand as an international student in 2022 from Vietnam, Binh Duong province in particular, one of the top five fastest growing cities in Vietnam and entered work-life here last year.

However, despite a great education, positive references and good local experience, I’ve struggled to find a permanent job since completing my studies. I wonder why.

By Bob Selden.  (This article was originally written by Bob in 2015 – and he’s still cycling!)

Two year’s ago, having reached the 70 year age mark, I decided to get fitter by doing more cycling – regularly. I mixed road riding with the home trainer, and achieved 369 days in a row! Then I encountered a slight “bump in the road”, being diagnosed with cancer. And that too was a positive, as because I was so physically fit by then, I was able to be treated with a much higher dose of chemo than normal, and recovered within six months.

But back to my riding – how was I able to go from zero days to 369?

By Ian (Harv) Harvey. 

Have you ever observed someone you admire, and thought, “Wouldn’t it be nice to be like them and have my shit together too”?

That’s something Harv often reflected on in his early years, navigating a plethora of challenges coming from many different angles.

Here’s the thing - 

I once worked for an organisation that seemed to embody the epitome of the ideal.  In fact, everything the management gurus suggest should be evident in the “excellent” organisation, was there.  Employees who were dedicated, management who cared about the staff (and who knew the business!) and customers who were loyal.  The organisation even had a marketing department that involved the staff in the latest advertising and promotional schemes before going public!  The corporate colours were blue and gold, and it was said that staff would die for the company if necessary and their blood would flow in the corporate colours!

Although I thoroughly enjoyed working there (and like all the others, would have shed blood, too), I thought the halcyon environment was merely a fluke and it was my good fortune to strike it lucky.  With hindsight, I can now see the logic of why this organisation worked so well - it was the solid foundations on which this idyllic structure was built.

Those foundations were - 

The first step in building business resilience, is to understand your customer’s concerns.

A point in case. In the 12 months following the GFC in 2008, new vehicle sales in the US fell by 43%.  I can imagine people in dealerships and car company HQ’s in the US sitting around asking, “How can we sell more vehicles?”. 

The result saw the opening of the discounting flood gates with one dealer even offering a two-for-the-price-of-one deal, “Buy a new vehicle at the retail price and we’ll give you a new one free!”.

Even such mad discounting had no impact on new vehicle sales – companies were thinking of their own concerns and asking the wrong question, “How can we sell more vehicles?”.

However, one company asked a different question with outstanding results,

As a former banker, this writer’s thinking was piqued by a recent article on ABC News that stated, “All three (major) lenders . . . reported serious downturns in earnings and each of the three major banks doled out unexpectedly large wads of cash to shareholders, either to distract from the performance or to diminish the pain and keep the share prices elevated”.

It posited the cause as, the rise of mortgage brokers in the home lending market.  Around 75% of new loans in Australia are now negotiated through mortgage brokers. Is that similar in NZ? Elsewhere?