Are you positive or negative? Does your behaviour impact those around you and can you change it? It all has to do with the positive or negative outlook we present which can dramatically impact those around us. Often we are not aware of the messages we are sending through our actions. Psychologists call this mode of behaving a ‘Locus of Control’.
Some years ago, I read a report by Spiro Zavos in the sports columns of my local paper, which described the behaviour of a rugby coach during a very tense finals game. The antics of the losing coach gave a very good insight into why his team did not win and in fact loses many close games.
In part, Zavos’ report read “He was at his over-emotional worst at Lancaster Park on Sunday. The eyes rolled more wildly than ever, he stalked the sideline. Not even the television cameras were safe from his flaying arms. His antics sent a damaging message to his team: that the fates are conspiring against them and they are, somehow, destined to lose. And for the second week in a row they lost a critical game.” The winning coach on the other hand “ … sat impassively in the stands. The sign he gave to his players with this emotionless posture was that if the players wanted to win, they had to do it themselves. And they did. Just.”
Both these coaches were very experienced and knowledgeable about the game. Both had got their teams to the finals. But why did one coach’s team always lose the close games and the other always win?